Leader-ish?

Some time ago someone told me that I was getting more "leader-ish".
Well it is not a good sign. That person would share many things with me cause I'm not "leader-ish". I knew my conversation with that person sparked off that comment. I had to trace back to what I spoke and the attitude I carried.

I felt like I have spoken down to XXX(the person I've spoken to).. I put XXX at a level where he/she is not.. XXX is at a much higher level than that..
I did not take clear view of XXX thoughts. I just "generalise" things. I guess being "leader-ish" is putting everyone else at the same level.
I may be wrong about my definition, but that's the closest mistake I could think of.

What I could have done was to put myself in XXX's view of the situation, understand fully the emotional and logical difficulties he/she is going through.
I've always brought that "generalising" attitude everywhere. It just makes thinking easier, but it is not good at all..
Being a leader just made that attitude more obvious.. thanks XXX, for pointing it out.

Also there's a "I was kinda full of myself" thing going on.. thinking that I know everything.. STOP!
The way I express myself is problematic too.. Well this is one problem that will always keep me from trying to communicate to people. But I cannot stop communicating, else I will become the old Samuel. I will go back to where I was, I will walk the other way..